Originally published as part of the Interfaith Ramadan series on ABC Religion & Ethics. For more reflections and commentary on interfaith and Ramadan, visit Interfaith Ramadan: A Safe Place to Explore Difference, and Find Community which is regularly being updated this month.
Imagine walking through the local park and you turn a corner. There are 7 or 8 men and women standing in a circle, each in turn holds up a curved object that you quickly realize is an animal horn of some sort, they speak briefly, take a swig from the horn and everyone else yells, “Hail.”
What would you think?
What about walking through a dense populated city on the East Coast (US), when you see a procession of people yelling and screaming at a man carrying a large, long piece of wood?
Or, you’re taking a pleasant trip to the UK (let’s say London) and you spot a group of individuals bowing their heads to the ground, all facing the same direction, and they do this for several minutes?
The truth is, you might know the rituals of the second two, as they are more commonly known. What do these situations mean for those not participating in them though? How should we react to them, if at all?
The first ritual is a Heathen one, called Sumble (Symbel). Sumble is an ancient rite that is actually well known to those who are familiar with Beowulf. Sumble includes the ritual passing of a drinking horn, with the idea that those who participate in the rite are making a deep commitment to each other, effectively they are deepening friendship and evoking connections to the gods and all others that have participated in Sumble in the past. It’s often emotional, because honoring one’s family who have passed died is often an essential part of Sumble.
How would you know this? Would you be scared of a group of (often) tattooed and long-haired/bearded people standing in a public space yelling hail? I might be… and I’m a Heathen myself! The fact is, we are often unsure of what do to when we encounter a ritual of a faith group we are not a member of. We often don’t know how to act, and sometimes, we want to be respectful and we end up making a mistake any way.
There is no shame in asking polite questions, and sometimes that is the only way to ensure we are doing the right thing by others. However, asking questions of the people participating in any of these three rituals while they were doing so might be very rude. So what do we do when we encounter these rites? If you really need to know, wait. Be polite and listen and wait for an obvious break in the ritual, or an individual who is willing to speak. If that isn’t possible, google is your friend, and making assumptions is your enemy. The simple key, like many human interactions, is to try and respect others while they are engaged in their ritual, and to be open-minded to what you are seeing and hearing. If you make a faux-pas, apologize sincerely. Remember, some of the most beautiful moments in life, are unknown to you before you experience them.
Josh Heath is the Co-Director of the Open Halls Project, an advocacy organization for military Heathens. Josh is also a graduate student at American University where he is studying International Peace and Conflict Resolution. He is an advocate for dialogue and his studies have largely been focused on ethnic identity creation and ethnic based conflict. On top of all of that, he is an Admissions Counselor for an educational technology company in the Washington D.C. area and a loving father and husband.
Josh previously wrote A Heathen's Suggestions for Helping Others Explore Faith for #IFRam2015.
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